I wrote this a little while ago, and had been waiting for the right time to put this out, and because of the recent events, I felt this to be that time.
In the midst of all of the tragedy I have to start with a couple simple statements that are truly obvious, but I still feel has been drowned out.
All cops aren't corrupt.
All blacks aren't criminals.
Either way, will death be the solution?
But on both sides, we have taken the worst of these, and applied it to the whole group. Stating all cops are corrupt, or (though this wouldn't be said in public, but their actions would show they believe) all blacks are criminals or more dangerous in some way. But honestly most of the racism I've experienced in life has been due to ignorance. They just don't know or understand. When you live in a society where most people look like you, you aren't forced to learn about or appreciate those who don't. Let me explain with something that happened to me not too long ago.
I was talking with a friend about the upcoming election and if it came down to Trump or Clinton who would get his vote. His response froze me. He told me “no offense, and but we just had a black president, we can't have a female too" This is coming from a friend who doesn't show any outward or blatant racism (or sexism) and is really a good guy, but with statements like that he's kinda hard to defend to say the least.
Basically he's saying "ok we had our fun and that's cool but let's get back to business and put the white man back on top." This shows a subconscious prejudice that has to be fought to be destroyed. Much of racism today isn't white people screaming "nigger" or segregated bathrooms and buses, but in the thinking that they are still superior in some fashion. The problem is most don't even believe that they have prejudices and when you try to show them how they do or have racial advantages, they usually reply with something like "I love black people, or I have black friends" and other things of the sort. They listen and love our music and culture, and I've heard way too many times "I wish I was black" because of how "cool" we are or for some sort of athletic advantage but if they were only aware of what everyday life is like. Constantly having to tone down or "control our level of "blackness" when around white people so they don't feel threatened, uncomfortable, or so they at least get our jokes. It's frustrating we people expect you to be able to dance, rap, sing, be athletic, but not intelligent. Many of us constantly live in this duality of being one person when at work or school and another when we're around our own. We learn it as a way to function in white society, we don't even have to think about it. Sometimes I feel all we really have completely to ourselves is our art, but even that isn't always respected the way it should.
The other side that's just as dangerous are those who treat blacks like wounded animals. They are usually overly generous but subconsciously becomes more patronizing than a being a helping hand. The helper feels (whether they are aware of it or not) superior or above the one he or she is helping. The one who is being helped begins to look up the to helper as a superior because of a financial or social advantage. This keeps blacks in a weak position, using circumstances as a excuse for receiving handouts, and relying on them to stay afloat. There is nothing wrong with giving or receiving help, but when it becomes a dependence the situation becomes dangerous.
But how do we fix this? How do we fix, not only a broken system but corrupt fundamental thinking? These are questions that we are still looking to answer, but I believe it starts with opening up a dialogue, but not just talking about these tragedies, but also discussing solutions, and following through. (I know this is obvious and nothing revolutionary, but it's a foundation)
I send prayers out to all the families who have lost loved ones because of ignorance and hate.